Last Sunday,
my bicycle and I separated when it stopped and
I did not. 

  Physically, I am fine. The cuts and bruises have
healed rapidly.  Emotionally, the shock continues
one and off...in a useful way.  The last time I had
an owie or hurt is when I was 12 years old.  This is almost
a new experience for me to have felt so scared and
shocked.   And then to allow others to help me
and then receive it freely. 

I know when I offer help to others, I do it easily,
honestly and with "wanting to."  Whether it be physical
help, or emotional or simply being present, I want to.
When I am the recipient, I feel uncomfortable, probably wondering
whether I am imposing, being a burden....yet I can and will
receive it graciously.

Feeling my "being afraid," is yucky but welcome.  I honor it in
others.  It is sometime unfamiliar to me to actually have the real
fear come to the surface, and then be with it. 

Just need to say that I would love to come down again with Boye
and be with you, Jimmy Knight, and just be there.

love,
bruce
 

BEHIND BEHAVIOR

  
 "Depending on our belief, we, as children, came into this world involuntarily. We were conceived without our conscious consent. Some might say we chose our parents. And that could be true too. Either way, we got here because, in most cases, a female and a male wanted us to be in their lives for one reason or another.
 
 So, I suggest that we, as parents, teachers, psychologists and regular people delete the term "behavior problem."  These two words have become a common way to describe and identify little people, (the children), as they become older.  This is not a trivial thing. And it is not a right thing.
 
What is a behavior problem but someone elses judgment of my unwillingness to live, moment to moment, the way someone else believes I should. If, I as a little person in school, or at home, express my uniqueness, my creative energy, my spirit, do I become a behavior problem for you?"
 
 If that voice of the little person could speak, she might say, "I need to move. I need to draw.  I need to know what you are talking about, and be interested in hearing it.  But please, do not refer to me as a problem. I may be a problem to you because you do not know me, not inside. You are too busy to know me. 

Stop. Join me. Slow down. You will find there is much more to who I am inside, than a disturber. Ask me a question from wonder. Ask me what I want to know more about.  I will join with you as you join with me. We can collaborate. We can be allies."

BEHIND ALL BEHAVIOR

 "Depending on our belief, we, as children, came into this world involuntarily.  We were conceived without our conscious consent. Some might say we chose our parents.  And that could be true too. Either way, we got here because, in most cases, a female and a male wanted us to be in their lives for one reason or another.
 
 So, I suggest that we, as parents, teachers, psychologists and regular people delete the term "behavior problem."  These two words have become a common way to describe and identify little people, (the children), as they become older.  This is not a trivial thing. And it is not a right thing.
 
What is a behavior problem but someone elses judgment of my unwillingness to live, moment to moment, the way someone else believes I should. If, I as a little person in school, or at home, express my uniqueness, my creative energy, my spirit, do I become a behavior problem for you?"
 
 If that voice of the little person could speak, she might say, "I need to move. I need to draw.  I need to know what you are talking about, and be interested in hearing it.  But please, do not refer to me as a problem.   I may be a problem to you because you do not know me, not inside.  You are too busy to know me. Stop. Join me. Slow down.  You will find there is much more to who I am inside, than a disturber.  

Ask me a question from wonder. Ask me what I want to know more about.  I will join with you as you join with me. We can collaborate. We can be allies."
 

BEHIND ALL BEHAVIOR

 
 
 
 "Depending on our belief, we, as children, came into this world involuntarily.  We were conceived without our conscious consent. Some might say we chose our parents.  And that could be true too. Either way, we got here because, in most cases, a female and a male wanted us to be in their lives for one reason or another.
 
 So, I suggest that we, as parents, teachers, psychologists and regular people delete the term "behavior problem."  These two words have become a common way to describe and identify little people, (the children), as they become older.  This is not a trivial thing. And it is not a right thing.
 
What is a behavior problem but someone elses judgment of my unwillingness to live, moment to moment, the way someone else believes I should. If, I as a little person in school, or at home, express my uniqueness, my creative energy, my spirit, do I become a behavior problem for you?"
 
 If that voice of the little person could speak, she might say, "I need to move. I need to draw.
I need to know what you are talking about, and be interested in hearing it. But please, do not refer to me as a problem.  I may be a problem to you because you do not know me, not inside.  You are too busy to know me. Stop. Join me. Slow down.  You will find there is much more to who I am inside, than a disturber.  Ask me a question from wonder. Ask me what I want to know more about.  I will join with you as you join with me. We can collaborate. We can be allies."